What happened when I stopped thinking I needed a boyfriend

Brooke Saward in Stockholm
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Waaaaarrrrning! Personal Post here. The kind of post where the title is fairly indicative of the content that will follow. The kind of post that gives you just a little too much insight into my personal life that I have nonetheless decided to share with the wild web. Why do such a thing, I hear you ask? I choose to share my thoughts and ramblings in this ‘journal’ section of my blog to reach out to others and help put our thoughts into words. Sure, you might not agree with me. But with a title so indicative of the content that will follow such a title, you can by all means choose to stop reading now. But before you go, this post is for all girls – single girls, in-a-relationship girls, i-want-him-back girls, and sworn-off-men girls. Hell, this post is even for boys.

A little over a year ago was the last time I changed my Facebook relationship status. Yes, I am from generation internet. Shortly thereafter, exactly one year ago today, was the day I booked a one-way flight to London that would have me leaving Australia (forever?) some two months later. Prior to my departure, I had never really been a serial dater. I had had two serious relationships in my 22 years of living and a string of highschool boyfriends… pretty ‘normal’ in the realm of dating, or at least that’s what I told myself. But somewhere along the way I had come to depend on others for my happiness. If I was in a relationship I wasn’t particularly happy in, I’d convince myself the pros outweighed the cons because I needed that person. I feared change, despite knowing it was the best thing for me. I feared being alone. I feared being the late bloomer whilst all my friends were coupling off in droves. I feared the idea of being a strong, independent woman because I was led to believe (mainly by mainstream media) that strong women would end up alone because men found a woman’s strength and independence intimidating and perhaps even unattractive. But what happened next couldn’t have been further from the truth…


Standing there in the thick of it all, knowing no one and no one knowing me… I could be any version of myself. I could better myself. I could rid myself of my past mistakes, faults and indiscretions… and be a better version of myself. Not just for now, but from this day forward.

Somewhere along the way amidst my endeavours to please others (particularly one other), I had lost myself. The things that once made me happy were no longer capable of doing so. I became stuck in this downward spiral of self-criticism. I kept wanting to change my exterior in an effort to change my interior and I never saw any of this as a bad thing because I was merely of the opinion that everyone else was doing it. Whether we admit it or not, for far too long we as women have become reliant on the approval of the opposite sex. Whether its a matter of our appearance, our whit, our intellect or our achievements, we have all at some stage become reliant on how we are perceived by others, particularly the opposite sex.

So then I flew to London.

Since flying out to London, I have visited all 6 inhabited continents around the world in a non-stop journey to find my feet. From the little things such as packing my suitcase every few days, waking myself up with an alarm after two hours sleep, getting biceps in one arm from carrying 30 kilograms of luggage up and down metro stairs, to dealing with situations when they inevitably go wrong… each and every step this year has been with my own two feet. 

Sometimes I have chosen to catch a cab instead of the (much cheaper) public bus because it’s 1:00am and the last time I wandered the streets alone after midnight with a suitcase in tow, a homeless guy followed me for three blocks until I reached my hotel. Sometimes I have phoned home in a pool of self-pity to describe how someone had stolen hundreds of dollars from me. Sometimes I have come so close to booking a flight home that my credit card digits were entered and ready for the final purchase, when a knock on the door came with a flower delivery from a reader who had thoughtfully seen my dispair and wanted to reach out to say how thankful they were that someone else was travelling the world for them, because they couldn’t take the time off work to do it themselves.

…So it hasn’t always been hard & it hasn’t always been easy. It has been a roller-coaster ride, as is life for each and every single one of us, it has just been a roller-coaster travelling at lightening speed where I have seen, done and experienced more than many will in their entire lives (for which I am eternally grateful for). But the one thing it has been is independent. Slowly but surely I managed to ween myself away from the idea and notion that I needed someone else… anyone else. It was something I needed to do for myself in order to know myself better, understand my limits and expectations, handle my emotions so that now nearly nothing can phase me, and challenge myself so I’m never left wandering what I could have been capable of in life.

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All of this is not to say that we should live and die alone.

We shouldn’t. 

But by forcing myself to stand on my own two feet and not rely on anyone else for their approval or disproval, I have allowed myself to actually grow into the person I was capable of becoming. Had I have not taken the plunge and hopped onto that flight to London, I can honestly say I don’t think I would have ever become the person I am today.

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In life we learn with age that we don’t necessarily have just one love.

Generally speaking I believe this to be true, though I have met a 60 year old lady who married her boyfriend she met at the ripe age of six and has never known any different. This is what we call an exception to the rule. All power to her.

But just like our fashion sense, physical appearance and musical preference changes over the years, so do our feelings toward people we love and have loved. Change is healthy. Its natural and evolutionary; it makes life interesting. So for the most of us, you will love more than once. You will also love and lose… its all part of the deal when you go in head first, knowing that whatever you just got yourself into will either make or break you eventually.

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But regardless of whether you are in love, hate love, long for love or really just don’t even think about it at this point in your life, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. And to learn to love yourself first will inevitably lead to the ‘right’ kind of love in the long run. You will in turn become the truest and most happy version of yourself. You will know what you like as well as what you don’t like and you will be confident enough on your likes/dislikes/thoughts/beliefs to be able to stand by them. You will have your own opinion. You will fight for that opinion in a healthy discussion, rather than side with another’s view simply because you aim to please them. By loving yourself you allow yourself to be loved for who you arenot who you intend to be.

& that’s what I learned this year.

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    April 9, 2015 at 8:52 am

    Wow I really needed to hear this today…thank you for being so strong and wise, Brooke.

    Claisse Opulencia
    March 25, 2015 at 6:26 am

    Hi Brooke,

    I would just like to say a massive thank you for this post.

    I’m currently sitting in the Golden Tulip Hotel in Rome on my own having dinner when I came across this post. It’s been a week since I set off solo travelling for a month.. And today has been a bad day of negative thoughts and doubts. Me and my ex fiance broke it 3 weeks ago, it wasn’t the first time but I knew deep down in my heart that it was the last time. So I booked myself a ticket to Italy, Greece and Cyprus.

    Today has been a day of deep despair and I was very close to booking a flight back home. But then I came across this post and it reminded me exactly why I’m doing this trip in the first place.
    Which is to find the person I lost in a relationship that I gave TOO much in.
    I’m so desperate to find myself again.

    And you have given me courage to continue with my journey.

    All the love.


    March 1, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    I like also that travels allow us, girls and boys, to find out who we really are, what we really like, etc. regardless of the society that we live in. It is amazing and I think people like you even more then or, at least, you end up meeting the people that fit your personality. Great post! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    March 1, 2015 at 8:07 am

    …I’ve been on a similar journey since (well, before) a break-up last year. Power to you and everyone learning to love themselves and forging their own paths.

    February 23, 2015 at 1:34 am

    I discovered your instagram account an hour ago and opened your blog like a few minutes after that and I loved it already!! Especially this blog post! I was scanning through all of your pictures in ig and I absolutely envy you for traveling the world! Even more amazed that you are doing it solo!!! If i may ask, How are you able to keep up with your finances with all that traveling? You inspire me the moment i took a glance of your ig account and blog. Btw, have you been to the Philippines? Iam sure you’ll love it here so please do visit our country!! Xoxo, vins

    February 21, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    Ain’t it the truth! Awe-inspiringly honest. Thank you x

    January 22, 2015 at 8:55 am

    I can relate to this blog, I too was 22 and had 2 serious boyfriends a couple in between and then all of sudden found myself single and thinking the world had come to an end. At that age I started saving for travelling (although I should of worked and saved MORE!)
    I now feel that being on your own is quite a refreshing feeling, sometimes I think society makes you think you have to be with a be with someone in order to be successful and happy

    January 18, 2015 at 3:26 pm

    I love this post! It’s so refreshing, and reassuring to read about your path and your success in following it.

    January 17, 2015 at 2:31 am

    I find your blog interesting and amazing. Thanks for bringing us to your beautiful world.

    January 11, 2015 at 8:52 am

    I love this post, Brooke! Do you mind telling me where you got that black jacket in the first Picture though?
    Love xx

    January 9, 2015 at 10:41 am

    It’s great to know that there’s someone out there who doesn’t have a boyfriend and is independent. I decided to be independent at this age, just enjoy life and do it my way. Well actually I’ve been like that my whole life probably. I’ll also probably never have a boyfriend because of that, but it doesn’t mean I don’t have a life. It just means that I’m capable of standing on my own to feet when I want to. This blog will be part of my motivation to keep doing what I think is right and not what society thinks. It makes me smile to know that I’m not wrong to be independent. I’m glad you posted this, I’m sure there’s others out there that would be grateful as well. You made a great choice to share this. I hope you keep finding yourself and enjoy the new year. Happy new year!

    January 9, 2015 at 10:38 am

    It’s great to know that there’s someone out there who doesn’t have a boyfriend and is independent. I decided to be independent for now, just enjoy life and do it my way. Well actually I’ve been like that my whole life. I’ll probably never have a boyfriend because of that but it doesn’t mean I don’t have a life. It just means that I’m capable of standing on my own to feet when I want to. This blog will be part of my motivation to keep doing what I think is right and not what society thinks. I’m glad you posted this, I’m sure there’s others out there that would be grateful as well. You made a great choice to share this. I hope you keep finding yourself and enjoy the new year. Happy new year!

    January 9, 2015 at 7:44 am

    This is so beautiful and it is the truth. We must learn to be loved for us, not for who people think we are. This is something that I definitely have to work on. I hope to travel soon. I need out of this monotony.

    January 7, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    I read your post not long after you published it and have just finished re-reading it. I loved it the first time and i could defiantly realte to certain bits of it. But after a crazy year of lose, hurt, despair and completely loosing all faith in myself i read this post with a smile and a new found understanding and excitement.
    I have always yearned to travel but always made the excuse ‘I have no one to travel with’. I now find myself with people to travel with in the summer yet find myself craving to do it solo!
    Thank you for showing me i am not alone in my feelings and thoughts x

    January 5, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    Just discovered your site…….and absolutely, its like visiting a wonderful place or having a promotion and growing into a new job….you rejoice and embrace the place you were and things you did even though you may never visit again!

    December 30, 2014 at 11:26 pm

    Oh how much I loved reading it, Brooke! Thanks for putting it all across in a most candid fashion. And so unlike my usual self who always has lot to say, I am just kind of content, absorbing what you just said. Thank you. 🙂

    December 30, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    I absolutely love this post, Brooke!
    I recognize a lot in it 🙂

    December 29, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    This was so beautifully written and I completely agree with all of this. I’m glad you have found yourself and have learned to accept yourself for who you are- that’s wonderful and something we should all strive for!
    Thank you for being such an inspiration!

    December 22, 2014 at 6:18 am

    Yes, I’m curious who’s with you, to take all these pics with you in them? do you set up a tripod, ask a stranger, what? I would be worried in the middle of Times Square to do either, now that I think of it.

    • Brooke Saward
      December 22, 2014 at 6:25 am

      There’s a video on my youtube channel showing how i take my photos with a tripod 🙂

    December 22, 2014 at 3:10 am

    Do you always travel with a personal photographer?

    • Brooke Saward
      December 22, 2014 at 3:15 am

      No Im by myself 95% of the time!

    December 7, 2014 at 12:37 pm

    Thank you. I know that so many girls go in the direction of needing a boyfriend, they change themselves, make themselves lesser versions of themselves. A girl that was my best friend in third grade and was one of the smartest and funniest and kindest and prettiest person I knew got to middle school and piled her face in makeup and acted dumb because she thought that boys wouldn’t like her because of who she was.
    When I was younger, I always wanted a boyfriend, but since I stopped wanting, my life has turned around for the better.
    You are an incredible person Brooke and please don’t stop being so.

    November 23, 2014 at 7:56 am


    This is actually my first visit to your blog and I am so happy I found it! This post could not be more accurate to my current state of being, right now. I just ended a 2.5 year relationship with someone that I loved and thought I would build a life with; now that it is over, I find myself thinking a lot – who am I, really? What do I like to do and who do I want to be? Your words and the comments that your readers have left, are very inspiring to me. I really think that this heartbreak will lead me to more happiness and fulfillment than I would have had otherwise and it is okay to just be happy with myself.

    Thanks for sharing and I will continue to follow you in your journey! Good luck.

    Didy Bani
    November 22, 2014 at 5:23 pm

    This article is just so honest and raw. I have recently quit my job in mining industry to go travel the world and could not have agreed more. You have to be okay with yourself and learn how to love yourself before allowing others to. It is of course easier said than done as most of us get carried away in the dramas that comes with the relationships that we lost ourselves on the way. I think the best kind of relationship is the one with yourself, that you accept that it is okay to be on your own and to accept every flaws and that it is okay to have them. I hope that all is well Brooke and you’re doing a brilliant job in the other side of the world. I would love to one day to bump into you as I embark on my little adventure! 🙂

    November 21, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    What an amazing blogpost. I really feel inspired, thank you for that.

    Vanity Project
    November 20, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    So great.
    Love this!

    – VP (

    November 20, 2014 at 5:30 am

    What you’ve learned is something all women should learn in their twenties. I went through this too (watching Sex & the City helped actually, I’ll admit it). Around my 21st birthday, close to graduating, I realized that the only thing I was certain I wanted in life was to travel and see the world. Still, being in a serious relationship I didn’t pursue this goal, I kept adjusting my life to help my boyfriend achieve his goals. And yes, I was scared of going on my own, I wanted him to come with me, so I kept telling myself “some day for sure”.
    I’m so glad I had the balls to finally start traveling when the relationship ended. It was scary, and I got a lot of “really, by yourself?” remarks from people. But more than ever it reassured me that my dream was real and it truly made me happy. I was able to make myself happy. So I’ve promised myself I’d keep doing just that, and I’ve taken trips to exciting destinations every year since then – boyfriend or no boyfriend. Up until now they never had the time or money or gusto to really travel so I would just go alone and had a blast anyway.

    2 days ago I returned from South Korea with my current boyfriend, we had so much fun. Last year due to budget reasons he stayed behind when I went to Vietnam. This is the first time someone came along on my “longer” travels and it was great sharing the experience with him. Still I’ll always, always know I don’t need to rely on him (or any boyfriend) to achieve my dreams & goals. It’s wonderful having him with me, but I know I can ultimately count on myself to get there.
    It’s brought me peace of mind. Knowing I can be happy no matter what.
    And in a way I think it’s better for my relationships too – it takes the pressure of the guy (I don’t suffer from “save me!” syndrome anymore). When I’m with someone it’s because I want to, not because I need to.

    Hope you’re having a wonderful time in Berlin! xo

    November 19, 2014 at 1:20 am

    That is a beautifully written piece and probably took a lot to do so. Sounds like you’ve done a lot of self growth hopefully men can appreciate that like I’ve done.

    November 18, 2014 at 5:39 am

    I just want to say thank you for this. I have backpacked Europe with a friend. I have backpacked Europe solo. I have moved abroad solo. In the process I have grown so much and I am so thankful for it. However, my biggest issue is returning home after my travels. I have changed and blossomed and no one at home gets that. I return and attempt to be this new me I have discovered while on my own and I become frustrated with old friends that I was once so close with because they do not seem to understand that I am not the same. So inevitably I book another flight somewhere so I can be around fellow travellers that seem to get me better. May I ask how you handle this?

    November 18, 2014 at 5:06 am

    Great post!Thank you! This has been a subject that i have been thinking about too much and think i have finally decided too that i don´t need no one else to be happy:)

    November 18, 2014 at 4:42 am

    I read every comment to see how others responded. I was glad for Jenna’s response. I don’t relate personally at all to your experience. I never had a high school boyfriend because I could never see the point. It seemed limiting to me. I was out for adventure and experience from the moment I finished high school. I had my first real relationship at 27 and it was disastrous. He wanted me to make his life mine, and I wasn’t into that AT ALL. I realized he didn’t love ‘me’ as much as the idea or image of me that he held. I always liked me too much to be anything else. I met my husband of 17 years a year after ending that relationship. We intend to love one another ’til death, because we choose to love one another every day. We genuinely like each other, but are willing to help each other be better and stronger, too. We’ve made a family together, and I think what fascinates me, is that we have a daughter that I can easily imagine feels like you do/did. And we have one whose very much a chip off this old block. SO, thank you so much for posting something that helps me understand a way of being that I don’t relate to and wouldn’t have contemplated without your sharing. I have enjoyed your travel posts for a while, and enjoyed this post as well!

    November 18, 2014 at 2:59 am

    Great post, Brooke. You are a true inspiration for following ones dreams and finding happiness.

    November 18, 2014 at 2:33 am

    Such an excellent post Brooke, it is important to do things for yourself, your life is your own do with it what you want as long as you are happy. Love your blog x

    Emilie Margrethe
    November 17, 2014 at 10:48 pm

    You left me with a big grin on face and quite a few tears in my eyes. What a post! It blew me away and hit real hard! I must say you’re one hell of a woman! Such an inspiration to young girls like myself!

    November 17, 2014 at 4:41 pm

    Brooke, I have been following you since January last year via your website and instagram account. I am in awe that someone of your age has traveled so much and achieved more than other people much older than you. I know it would be nice to have a boyfriend to share it all with but I think that you are doing extremely well being on your own right now. I can see that you have a lot of ambition and drive with many more destinations you want to explore. I don’t think you would let anything or anyone get in your way unless they were really special. They would have to be able to keep up with you that’s for sure!:) Keep doing what you’re doing, you’ve been so inspirational to all your followers. I’m looking forward to seeing what you get up to next..

    steph / absolutelyfuzzy
    November 17, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    i know someone who really needs to read this – so thank you for this brilliant post. i found you on the weekly bloglovin email btw – congrats 🙂

    November 17, 2014 at 9:09 am

    Great post, I am in the same position now, borke up with my long term ex, then here I am in London. I get lonely, see friends and family all coupled but it’s important I stand on my own two feet and I am happy alone, I want to find my meaning in life and I dont want anyone to distract me from that. I’m sure the right guy will come along when the time is right 🙂 xx

    kay brady
    November 17, 2014 at 7:50 am

    This is an amazing post it couldn’t have come at a better time thank you I needed to read this.
    Forward on my own two feet Thank you x

    Carly @ Musings of a Wanderer
    November 17, 2014 at 7:29 am

    This post is so inspirational! I have been single for a while too but I’ve learned its really about loving yourself and being comfortable with your independence 🙂

    November 17, 2014 at 7:20 am

    Excellent post. So very true! ^__^

    November 17, 2014 at 6:34 am

    I am so in love with this post! This being the first post I have read of yours and it has been a very good first experience! I was just wondering what country you are in currently?

    November 17, 2014 at 6:20 am

    Such a wonderful post and it expresses exactly how I feel right now. I started uni this september and literally everyone in my class has a boyfriend – except me. All they talk about constantly are their guys, their lifes are so centered around this other person. I, on the other hand, can do what I want, enjoy my life, I don’t have to tell anyone when I’ll come home that night – there is just so much more freedom. Of course, eventually I’ll find someone, but I’m not desperate and I just enjoy my life as it is now instead of being worried that I’ll end up lonley – I’m in my (very, very) early twenties after all. But thanks again for this post, you captured my feelings in words!

    Leah of The Mochilera Diaries
    November 17, 2014 at 5:37 am

    I’ve learned the very same thing this year. Still learning who I am and trying to work on the things I don’t much care for about myself, but doing it independently and I think I’ll be better off for it. Thank you for sharing, it’s always comforting to hear others’ similar struggles/triumphs!

    November 17, 2014 at 2:22 am

    wow I loved this post.. even today I was on the phone saying I miss having a boyfriend but I agree and know deep down that I need this time to grow and become me. We are all strong and independent we just have to take that leap of faith alone to realise it. Thank you x

    Natali - Brains and Heels
    November 17, 2014 at 2:14 am

    Thank you so much for this post. I do not know if it is fate or WHATEVER but this post came when I needed it the most. I rationally know everything you have written, and I am myself an independent, strong young woman, but who unfortunately feel many times lost because I don’t have a man beside me.

    Six days ago I ended a relationship and I’ve been crying like a little baby since then. I didn’t end it because he was bad for me, or because my feelings had changed – it was the opposite: I started to fall in love with him after seven months of “uncomplicated” dating (the movie Friends with Benefits you know? Well, that was us more or less… except he had 2 children and was 15 years older than me). I knew he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship due to some very bad experiences from former relationships, and I knew that if I brought this up we would most definitely “break up”. But I did. I brought it up, even if I knew that it would be the end – because I needed to do it for myself. I feel that I want a serious relationship and I need to be with a man who wants the same. Even if we had the most amazing time and we had feelings for each other, I suddenly became very uncomfortable when I was with him. Could I kiss him in front of other people? Yes? No? Could I cuddle with him when watching a movie or was that crossing the line? Could I talk about my TRUE feelings or not? Could I cry in front of him? Was it ok? Are we friends? What are we?

    He is the most amazing person, and I’m crying so much right now when writing this, but I know that I want and need something else in my life. Most of all I want him but with different circumstances – but you cannot have it all. This is me loving myself by choosing what is best for me, even if it hurts as fuck right now.

    Thank you!

    / Natali

    November 17, 2014 at 2:03 am

    Lovely read and entirely true. We have become so accustomed to constantly being connected to other people – not just boyfriends but friends and social media as well. It is so important to have a good relationship with yourself, because without this, you just cannot expect to have relationships with others that will be truly fulfilling.

    rae of love from berlin

    November 17, 2014 at 12:44 am

    So true, Brooke! I also have had the “ex boyfriend” trigger to start my own travel blog. Traveling is the best way to clean your mind from past-time memories and to get new inspirations. Above all, traveling is about finding your own happiness, learning to lead an independent life and to cope with change. Lots of happiness to you and all travelers out there,

    Julia from

  • awanderlustblog@OUTLOOK.COM'
    November 17, 2014 at 12:06 am

    intersting post, it’s v important to be able to be independent, even if sometimes we rely on a hot boy for something!!

    November 16, 2014 at 9:48 pm

    Great post and thanks for sharing something so personal to you! I guess all of us will relate to your words one way or another. We don’t like to be alone, that’s part of our human nature anyway, but we many times end up taking that far too long when it doesn’t make sense. I find it a strength for someone to accept herself / himself and learn to be alone. In my opinion we should all do it before we accept any kind of relationship, it’s the only way you will truly know yourself and that should not be forgotten once you have someone by your side. If you end up trying to change yourself to please the other side it’s not going to work. And plus, I believe in different kinds of love: there’s family love, there’s friends love even pet’s love (for those of you that have pets will certainly understand this one). If it happens that you meet the right person, someone who will accept you as you are and walk hand by hand with you, great, if not I’m sure you’ll have a lot of love around you anyway 🙂

    Sarah Elizabeth
    November 16, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Ahhh Brooke, what an amazing post! You should be so proud seeing how many people you are inspiring. Encouraging woman (and men!) to become independent and not base their happiness on someone else’s approval is amazing- perfect message. We’re all in relationships so we talked about the other side, traveling solo when in a relationship can be just as inspiring- and can work wonders for improving all relationships in your life! Maybe you can relate from your first trip- sometimes boys just don’t understand how important eating macaroons in Paris is right?! 😉 What a year 2014 has been for you- congratulations! Sarah & Leah, Girls In Polka Dots xx

    November 16, 2014 at 8:40 pm

    hi brooke! this is the first time that i visit your blog but i understand your mentality and your ideas very well. i think we have a lot of things in common! after spending 5 years at a university in europe,i come back home, in my country without graduation. people here is not like us. i dont think that they even imagine years with travelling countries,meeting with new people, dealing with the thives who stole our money or cell phones in another country. but i m happy that i experienced all of them. and i changed a lot. i changed a lot that now i cant stand to spend the rest of my life with the people who have no idea about all those things. i have problems about my age(tomorrow i ll be 26 officially) and i still use my families financial support and my mothers car.still go to uni and i need two more years to graduate.
    i even dont know why i m explaining all those things here but as a result after traveling 13 different countries in 2 years which i felt lost, i understand you very well! just keep going, move forward! in any case i ll support you by reading and understanding you!

    November 16, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    Thanks so much for this post! I agree with every word.

    November 16, 2014 at 8:28 pm

    Lovely post!
    Such an important message too 🙂

    Jessica Ashby
    November 16, 2014 at 7:39 pm

    This post was just what I needed to read 😀
    I have just returned from a year of travelling myself, and I have also just left a long and wonderful relationship in an attempt to better myself and chase my dreams. This post was almost like a gentle nudge telling me to keep going because I’m doing the right thing however crappy it might feel at times.
    Thank you once again for the perfect post

    Artemis Stigka
    November 16, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    I loved your story and I resonate with it so much! Same thing happened to me years ago, when my long-lasting relationship ended and I pushed myself to change countries and meet new experiences. You just reminded how wonderful it is, despite the fear you may feel in the beginning! 🙂

    November 16, 2014 at 6:28 pm

    Amazing, honest and beautiful post!
    I myself am happy in a relationship for over 5,5years but I definitely agree with what you say, that you can lose your independence. (Small example, I’ve been craving a pair of boots for a while now but I knew my bf wouldn’t like them so I didn’t ordered them, yesterday I asked him if he liked them and as expected the answer was no. But then I’s my style, I like them, I want them, I’m going to buy them and he was like “okay”) I’m very grateful that I can be myself and stay true to who I am and what I want in life.
    It’s so important that you can stay true to yourself in any relationship, everybody deserves that!
    Really beautiful post and I’m happy you continued traveling and learning all different kind of things 🙂
    xo Lyn

    Taryn Watt
    November 16, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    This is absolutely perfect! I have been on the same journey to independence since I broke up with my boyfriend after 3.5 years. While probably the hardest, it has been the best thing I have ever done for myself! Proud of you for being so strong!

    Taryn xxx

    The red sheep
    November 16, 2014 at 5:15 pm

    I wish more women would realize this! All the women where I live just focus on looks and not on personality at all! It’s pathetic and frustrating! It makes me want to go out with a flame thrower and burn everything down to the ground!

    Lizzie Vasquez
    November 16, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    I truly enjoyed this post! It is so wonderful that you overcame the idea of needing someone else in order to be happy. I really hope I will be able to do the same one day. Thanks so much for sharing!

    November 16, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    Wow, so very inspiring well said sweetheart. Your an amazing young woman.

    November 16, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    Beautiful post!

    Belinda Stewart
    November 16, 2014 at 4:30 pm

    Hi Brooke. You couldn’t have been more right about loving yourself first. After all, if you can’t love and accept who you are, how can you expect other people to love & accept you right?

    Your blog has inspired me to travel light and in-style. Come Dec, I will be taking my first white Christmas holiday to Europe with a carry-on bag. I have already packed my luggage 🙂 and still have space in the bag for the shopping spree when I am there (woohoo!)

    Be well my dear.

    November 16, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    I’m recently single and oh-my-goodness, did I need to hear this! Beautifully written and an inspiration. Thank you, sister!
    Amanda xxx

    November 16, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    Thank you so much for putting this into words. I’ve recently been struggling with the fact that all my friends seem to have school-age kids and I’m still single. But you reminded me that my whole goal in life was to accomplish my own goals and make my own way in life without melting into the shadows of my husband’s life. When I was reading your post I realized I have accomplished what I wanted to and I also got the overwhelming sense that I will meet someone and get to have a wedding and kids which was a scary but exciting realization. I’m glad you were able to find your way and then share it so well that I could relate and use your experience to find my own peace. Thank you.

    Linda S Taylor
    November 16, 2014 at 2:10 pm

    Wonderful blog! I’m new here and I intend to look around, but I had to comment to you. When I was married (from age 20 to 30) I did little but work, clean, cook, and cry. Once I got divorced, the whole world opened up. I’m 55+ (way +) now, and I vowed I would never marry again. Dinner out occasionally is nice, but that’s about as far as it goes. I’m starting on my … lost count, maybe 4th or 5th career … and planning on staying around for maybe one or two more (some of my early jobs don’t even exist anymore)! So enjoy your freedom, even if only for this trip. You’ve already learned one of life’s more important lessons. There is only one you … don’t stifle her!

    Suzanne Yester
    November 16, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Wonderful post! Very inspiring and spot on.

    November 16, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Such wise words from someone so young 🙂 I do wish I’d realised these things when I was that young, but, it’s never too late as they say, and now at 50 I plan to make up for it, head off into the unknown by myself and discover the strength that I know is buried inside somewhere. Thanks for the inspiring words 🙂

    November 16, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Just thanks.

    Teresa Berry
    November 16, 2014 at 11:08 am

    I had absolutely loved your article. I can completely relate at the other end of the life…I am 46 and survived my midlife crisis learning the same lesson. You are so incredibly blessed to have learned this now instead of after 22 years of marriage with two you adult children. I woke up one day and have never been the same. Fortunately, my two young adults understand. My ex went through the same experience but will never admit it, but we did.

    My biggest advice if you are younger than me and going through a change, let it happen. It is growth that does bring out the butterfly.

    Andy Cao
    November 16, 2014 at 10:26 am

    You’re extraordinary. Beautifully written. Just beautiful.

    November 16, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Brooke, thank you for sharing this amazing personal story! I’m happy you’ve learned this much and that you jumped. I admire you for this! I’m thinking about ‘jumping’ too! 2015 is going to be my year of change..

    November 16, 2014 at 9:50 am

    What a wonderful post, I totally agree! 6 months ago I moved from the UK to Italy and I haven to say its been the most freeing experience ever as I can be who I want without all the baggage from before! More power to you!

    November 16, 2014 at 9:46 am

    Wonderfully expressed, and thank you for sharing your epiphany.

    It’s frightening to find out who you are and what you desire, especially when you’ve spent your whole life pleasing others. It’s not a bad thing to please yourself, and you’ve made that point beautifully.

    When talking to others about this very subject, I often use the example of flying. When there’s a sudden change in altitude and the air masks descend, you put yours on first, otherwise you’d be passed out and of no use to anyone, let alone yourself. You can’t give to others what you don’t have. If you don’t love yourself and stand by your own convictions, you can’t love others. You end up only seeking to please them, and when they become displeased, you’re devastated and start the whole process over again, with the same results.

    Love thyself! It’s the most precious gift in life. After you do, everything else follows.

    Brighton Mama
    November 16, 2014 at 8:36 am

    Just came across your blog today via bloglovin. What an amazing journey you are on – in every sense! – and this post is so inspiring. Thank you 🙂

    November 16, 2014 at 8:09 am

    I wish I knew all that when I was that young!!! Good for you.

    November 16, 2014 at 6:31 am

    Great post & pictures, thank You ! 🙂
    Greetings from Prague xx

    November 16, 2014 at 5:49 am

    Beautiful post!

    I went on a similar journey myself after getting out of an unhealthy 5-year relationship and I truly started to figure out who I was. Travel is the only thing you can buy to make you richer!

    I love your own two feet analogy.

    Keep up the posts! 🙂 xo

    November 16, 2014 at 5:33 am

    I couldn’t agree more: I’d rather be happy because independent and free instead of trying to impress someone. Those who care about me will get to know me and how I am.
    Thank you for this post!
    Lots of love,

    Abbie Driscoll
    November 16, 2014 at 4:54 am

    I feel you, girl! Amen to everything you said. Thank you for your honesty. I know that there are a lot of young women out there who can really appreciate this post and will be comforted by it.

    Elizabeth Peters
    November 16, 2014 at 3:41 am

    I thank you wholeheartedly for writing this post. It is often hard to wear your emotions on your sleeve as an established blogger. I recently started a new website/blog because I felt compelled to share more of my personal life and less of what I thought others would want to see. I feel like I am verging on becoming a strong, independent woman like you. After breaking up with my long-term boyfriend and some bad habits of my own, I can now say that I am (almost) living the life of my dreams. Without that easy comfort of a companion, I am now compelled to dive into my own passions and do more of the things I love. I know that this post will inspire other young women to do the same. xx

    November 16, 2014 at 1:23 am

    Brooke! This is such an amazing blog post (well all of them are 😉 ) but from the personal standpoint it is truly inspiring what you wrote and i hope to travel as well and find myself <3 thank you for reassuring me that finding oneself is important in order to find others 🙂 much love <3

    November 16, 2014 at 1:14 am

    Thank you for your post! Even though I’m an old married woman, sometimes it’s a good reminder to be true to myself and not care what others think.

    Betty J. Ogburn
    November 16, 2014 at 12:36 am

    …Beautifully stated, Brooke!!…

    Yara Miora
    November 16, 2014 at 12:24 am

    I got such a huge lump in my throat from reading this. Thank you for sharing this all!


    Lana Armstrong
    November 16, 2014 at 12:14 am

    Hi Brooke

    I have just started reading your blog and this post is so similar to what I have done! I left Australia solo traveling around the world realising I did not know how to make myself happy, just over a year later I now work as a Contiki manager in europe! Very inspiring words, could not have put it any better myself.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Jessica Valentine
    November 16, 2014 at 12:03 am

    Good on you Brooke! You have accomplished so much in one year all by yourself! Very inspirational 🙂 Lucky for me I found someone who i can share my travels with and I hope you do find the same !!

    – Jess from

    November 15, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    It is so refreshing and reassuring to read this post 🙂 good job on all you have accomplished!

    November 15, 2014 at 11:15 pm

    Love this post, so inspiring I’m saving it to read again whenever I feel my selfconfidence decreases. Thank you <3

    Maria Hermansson
    November 15, 2014 at 10:10 pm

    absolutely love this post! thank you for sharing your inspiring thoughts

    November 15, 2014 at 8:44 pm

    it ist so true! i really love your blog and hope that i can read more about you. your story gives me courage to jump over my own shadow. thank you

    Jessica C. (A Wanderlust For Life)
    November 15, 2014 at 8:19 pm

    I love your blog and I love the variety of your writings.

    You insight into finding yourself is certainly inspiring. I believe that if we don’t get out of our comfort zone, we will never be able to grow as much as when we experience more and meet more people.

    My husband and I moved across an ocean to see more of the world and to see how we can expand our minds and learn. We also did it to find ourselves and where we feel the most comfortable.

    After each challenge, you come out a slightly different and hopefully stronger person. Thank you for sharing!

    November 15, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Thank you so much for this. I’ve been single for over a year now, but when my relationship ended, so did a lot of the confidence I had in myself. I ended up questioning what I wanted from myself and from life, and realised that I didn’t really know who I was. Even now though, I still find myself holding back from making some of decisions for fear it will limit my ability to meet someone. Maybe it’s about time I just booked that plane ticket!

    William Fisher
    November 15, 2014 at 7:13 pm

    Great post…I’m 51 and lost my 1st wife to cancer 10 years ago and my 2nd wife and I separated earlier this year. The in between relationship times can be difficult and full of yearning but taking this advice is the best medicine and leads to making yourself a more attractive person when you do happen to bump into your next soulmate.

    Best holiday destinations
    November 15, 2014 at 6:46 pm

    Nice blog. Its touch my heart. thanks for sharing.

    Hui Xian
    November 15, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    Dear Brooke,
    As I write this I can actually feel myself tearing up a bit, 1) because I’m a horrible emotional sap at the current moment and 2) because your post hit real close to home. It hit home really hard. Maybe it was selfish to think I was the only one in this situation, or maybe it was because I was too lost in my own situation to think of anything else but reading the things you said and realising that’s exactly what I’m going through leaves me with waves upon waves of emotions.

    I have lost myself and I am struggling to find myself. But in some -cheesy movie like way- your post gives me hope that things can turn around. I want to be that strong independent person that doesn’t rely on anybody. So thank you, for showing me that I’m not actually alone in this crazy state of mind.

    I hope you have many more great adventures Brooke Saward, you sound like an incredible person. I’d personally like to have a friend like you one day, or alas maybe even get to meet you. You genuinely sound like somebody who just embraces life to the fullest, I love that. You inspire me.

    I apologise for my mini-novel sob story. I just had this urge to mention how…. Your post gave me a little more light to the end of this crazy tunnel.

    All the best wishes and have a wonderful holiday season.

    With love,
    – Hui Xian

    Sarah Shaw
    November 15, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    Such a beautiful post. I relate so heavily to this. Love it!
    Haha and good for you having the balls to write something so close to your heart.

  • lonewolfetravel@gmail.con'
    November 15, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Traveling alone will always be the best way to discover a great version of yourself. Great post!

    November 15, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    The is beautifully written. I am so grateful that I happened across your blog!


    November 15, 2014 at 12:41 pm

    Gosh this really made me cry.
    Mainly cos I’m so emotional now all I do is cry but your post hit home. My guy of 9 years just recently split up with me, we are still living together bit knowing he might never ever be mine again kills me. I was 17 when I met him. My only boyfriend. It’s all I know. And now I’m faced at deferring uni so I can find a job to be able to live on my own as there is no space for me with my parents anymore. All I want to do is pack up and leave and never return to Sydney. Money and my responsibly to my cats is what is stopping me. So much respect for you, knowing you survived gives me hope.

    Amber Primdahl
    November 15, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    This is so beautiful! It is exactly how I’ve been feeling and thinking of late. Having the chance to be single and find yourself is truly a blessing. Breaking up is hard, but can often be a blessing in disguise. Keep loving yourself 🙂

    November 15, 2014 at 12:29 pm

    This is exactly what I always have to remind myself! Love it Brooke! xx

    November 15, 2014 at 11:35 am

    Interesting to read. I’ve always been the exact opposite of how you were. I’ve always been super independent in all aspects of life and have preferred not be “tied down” to someone—I never liked having a boyfriend. Now that I have found the person I’m going to marry though, it’s been a bit of a struggle for me to lose some of that independence and to start building some of my life around his!

    November 15, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Great post! I’ve actually been pretty independent throughout my life, and the only serious relationship I’ve been in is with my current partner of a year and a half. For the past year we’ve been living with each other as he moved from Australia to be with me, but since then we’ve spent most of our time together.

    We’re moving to Australia in a week where he will be working on a roster so wont be at home for big amounts of time, and i’m quite exciting but also nervous (with it setting off my anxiety!) about being on my own, in a foreign country and doing day-to-day life on my own, but posts like this are so inspiring. I know i can do it, and i know it’ll grow me as an individual even more, and it’s quite an exciting journey we’re about to begin.

    Lizzy from Nomad Notebook

    November 15, 2014 at 10:59 am

    It sounds like booking that one-way ticket to London was the best thing you did for yourself! You have grown and matured with your travels and been fortunate enough to see what many of us can only dream of seeing! Thanks for being open and honest, this post was very inspiring.

    November 15, 2014 at 10:56 am

    Aw Brooke this is such an inspiring post. So proud of you!

    Heather x

    November 15, 2014 at 10:02 am

    I am currently going through a breakup that is breaking me to the core. I always used to think I was the independent girl and in every relationship I’ve always been the one to call it off, but this one is the other way around. I lived with him for three years and learned to depend on him for pretty much everything. I’ve been able to be single before and feel ok, but now I am dreading the idea of being alone again. I’ve lost interest in all of my hobbies, I’m late to work all the time now, I have zero motivation. I’m trying to pick myself up and push myself to get out of my rut. I’m realizing that I need to be alone, I need to learn to truly be independent, I need this so that I can grow and become a better person. This post is a little reminder that I’ll be ok and I’m on the right track, that this breakup is indeed what I need. So thank you for sharing your heart with us. I needed this, even for just a little comfort.

    Tessa / Bramble & Thorn
    November 15, 2014 at 9:34 am

    This is such a fantastic post, I identified with so much with what you’ve written. Very inspirational 🙂

    November 15, 2014 at 9:12 am

    I couldn’t agree more with this post. At 21, I always thought I was the strange one of my friends for never having a boyfriend. I’ve watched them become dependant on a boy and for their world to shatter when it goes wrong which has made me realise how much happier I am single. I’ve had the chance to experience opportunities without worrying it’ll affect a relationship. I’ve get to make decisions purely on what I want to do and I’m planning on moving away with no boy to hold me back. When I’m settled in a new city I hope love will find me, but for now I’m enjoying finding myself!

    November 15, 2014 at 9:06 am

    This post is so amazing. I have travelled to Australia, but I have itchy feet again now and want to travel again so badly but just like your post I have a boyfriend and things are really going all that well and I’m so unhappy, I feel like a shell of myself. I wish I could be as strong as you have been and just do what my heart is telling me.

    Your photos look amazing too.

    Hayley // Half Unread

    November 15, 2014 at 8:57 am

    This was such an inspiring post! I loved reading your thoughts about becoming independent and relying on yourself instead of on another person.


    November 15, 2014 at 8:20 am

    This is such a wonderful post! I was actually just thinking about similar things not long ago, so it’s nice to read the words from an individual that I admire.

    November 15, 2014 at 8:20 am

    your an absolute inspiration to this 36 year old single, disabled mum to get out there and love and enjoy every minute I can… And if the right one happens to come along then so be it but I will be teaching my little angel that she can do it ON HER OWN!!! Thankyou so much!!! Xxx

    Kayti Clayton
    November 15, 2014 at 8:20 am

    I seriously love you Brooke, I have so much in common with you and your posts are so easy to relate to. I was in a relationship for seven years (most of my adult life) and it was a toxic, suffocating relationship that sucked all of the ambition, life and self-esteem out of me. I broke up with him almost two years ago now and since then have begun saving to travel the world. And now with less than a year to my goal I know that if I hadn’t left that relationship and done something for myself to take control of my life I wouldn’t be heading where I am today. Thanks for sharing this and know your readers love you.

    November 15, 2014 at 8:17 am

    I say this all the time. “You have to be happy with yourself, and ok to spending time alone, before you can be happy with others.” Just because you have a significant other does not mean that you will never be alone again. I have been married for 3.5 years. Until June this year, my husband was gone every other month and sometimes gone for 3 month stints. You have to be ok with you!

    November 15, 2014 at 8:14 am

    Inspiring post and well put! I love your writing. It keeps me coming back every time to read more!

    November 15, 2014 at 7:27 am

    I love this post! I booked a one way ticket from New Zealand to Canada not entirely because of a messy guy-problem, but that did help push me in that direction. When I spent the year in Canada I swore off guys (because let’s be honest most guys living in Whistler aren’t there for a relationship!) and in result had the best, drama and stress free year of my life 🙂

    November 15, 2014 at 7:15 am

    This post is great. I love that you put your heart out there for your readers. We can all relate to you in one way or another. By finding yourself, for yourself, you truly become the person you are meant to be. I believe it is the best gift you could possibly give yourself. No matter what, you will always be there for you and you are the only one who can truly let yourself down. This journey is an amazing one that you have been blessed to document and I love reading every post. Congratulations on your continued journey of success.


    November 15, 2014 at 6:53 am

    Brooke, such a great post! Thank you so much for your transparency! Thank you for being such an inspiration to girls of all ages, and for speaking truth! Keep traveling and spreading your joy, so those of us who can’t leave (yet) can live vicariously through you!

    November 15, 2014 at 5:57 am

    What a great post! I greatly approve of everything you said. I’m a firm believer that one must find happiness within and not wait for that one person to make it happen. I think that it’s best to meet someone who wants to share and add to that happiness and view of life. x

    chelsea @ the new wifestyle
    November 15, 2014 at 5:28 am

    love this post! as a firm believer in maintaining a strong sense of being an independent woman, especially after getting in a relationship or married-i LOVE this! shout out to you and air high-five for taking the leap of faith and to have “allowed yourself to actually grow into the person you was capable of becoming.”

    powerful things and as someone who is also a fierce traveler and independent woman, it’s so important to find a partner in life who enhances your life but doesn’t try to change you!

    Marie @ Marie Away
    November 15, 2014 at 4:57 am

    Inspiring post! I have found a lot of joy in traveling with my boyfriend, and I never feel guilty about it. I am still my own person and can do my own thing when I feel like that’s what I want to do. Everyone is different, and it’s always important to be your own person, whether that’s by traveling solo, as a couple, or with a group. At times, we do rely on each other, but it’s important to be able to stand on your own.

    It’s nice to read something more personal once in a while. Thanks for sharing! 

    Ashley | Ashley Wanders
    November 15, 2014 at 4:48 am

    “The most important relationship you will ever have will be with yourself”- well said and so true!

    November 15, 2014 at 4:47 am

    this is such an amazing, inspiring post! i told myself this a few years ago and i’ve never been happier, even though i’m in a relationship i definitely don’t need that person and i’m happy in my self 🙂

    Rachel // Style Soup

    November 15, 2014 at 4:12 am

    such an important lesson in this post. i love the way you wrote it 🙂 thanks for posting , needed to here this.

    x candace

    November 15, 2014 at 4:04 am

    This is one amazing post! Great to see someone finding their feet and travelling the world! xx

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    November 15, 2014 at 3:52 am

    That is such a beautiful post. I completely agree that, sometimes, us women, do things just to impress boys, and at the end, that is not what makes us happy. Being myself, being free, being strong and independent. That is what you inspired me for and, I know, someday I will achieve it. We have to love people, but the one and only who we can be for sure that will always be by us, is ourselves.
    With love,

    Clipping Path Outsource
    November 15, 2014 at 3:51 am

    Live is always changeable. There is none how can tell what will be happening in next step.
    Yes I want to tell this is step of all.

    November 15, 2014 at 3:46 am

    I love this story. So inspiring and so true. Travel is amazing on so many levels

    November 15, 2014 at 3:46 am

    This post was so brave, thank you for sharing something so personal! I completely agree that it takes being alone to find yourself. I also found it was only after I learned to be with myself rather than with someone, that I actually found someone. Moreover, this person was more compatible than anyone else I have been with as I knew myself better and was more sure of what I wanted and needed. Savvy x

    November 15, 2014 at 3:26 am

    Congrats, I love your blog and I agree so much with this post.

    Two years ago I had to move to EUA, and the true is that was my first all by myself. I already move for another cities in my country just by myself, but change for other country was a big new adventure. One of the best things I learn from the year that I spent living far from all people I love (family and friends) was that I do not need them to be happy. Of course is amazing share many of my live with other people, but I can do it without it, without boyfriend and better I can find happiness.

    All the people would have a experience of living alone in different world just to understand themself.


    November 15, 2014 at 3:00 am

    I love this post, Brooke! You said it so well. You can’t find happiness with another person until you’ve found it for yourself, by yourself. It’s important to know how to be independent, especially still being so young. Love will come – it’s inevitable! I’m glad you’re enjoying yourself in the present, because that’s all that matters. Plus you are living a life that most people only dream of living!

    -Raza from