I don’t know where I’m going but I’m heading in that direction

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Milan Brooke Saward

In your 20’s and 30’s you don’t have to have it all figured out

Lets just start right off the bat with a bold statement, shall we? One that defies the logic you have been led to believe for the last couple of decades, one that renders your highschool teachers’ observations obsolete, and one that just straight up throws all pride out the window as you confess that maybe you don’t know it all, don’t have all the answers, and for once are not afraid to say such things. While you’re at it, why not wear that with pride – the very notion that perhaps, yes, you don’t know where you’re going to be in 5 years or 10 years and so help the next person to ask you such an absurd and unanswerable question.

O.K… Let’s backtrack a few chapters.

For most of us in our school days, all we want is independence. We crave the days of freedom – making our own choices, setting our own schedules, or meeting our own goals and targets beyond those set for us.

Then we ‘grow up’.

At some time around our early twenties (slight variations occur at this next step), we realise everything we had craved so badly in our teens was in fact a myth. A vague and distant falsehood. A non-event.

Because the truth is, that by the time we hit our twenties an unprecedented amount of responsibility falls upon us as well as a huge, gut-wrenching amount of expectations.

Expectations……. they come in many forms, many variations, at many times in our lives, and are for most us our biggest motivator and our biggest drawback. A paradox, indeed.

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& Then it dawns on us

Despite the years leading up to this moment, the countless nights slaving away over essays in highschool and college, scraping by our excelling in our tertiary education, no matter how hard we did or didn’t work, we come to a point where despite our best efforts and carefully crafted choices, we end up nowhere near the point we have strived for. For better or worse, we’re just a few too many rings outside of the ‘target’ zone.

We have no idea what we’re doing, where we’re going, where we want to go from here, or how to get there.

But we forget one minor detail… we’re still heading in the right direction.

So long as you’re increasingly working towards something, you’re heading in the right direction. You don’t need to know where you’re going or how you’ll get there, just that you’re on your way.

& that’s a comforting thought. Because I don’t know where I’m going, but I’m heading in that direction.

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    December 22, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    This is trully inspiring 🙂 I think that it’s very important to know what we want in life and be grateful with all the things we’ve accomplished and more grateful for what is yet to come.
    Love this posts Brooke 🙂


    December 9, 2014 at 4:05 am

    This is such a true statement! Setting up goals is really important but it does not mean that being constantly focused on your goals is the only path to success. You can take some time off, enrich your experience and explore other opportunities while still keeping your main goal in plan.

    December 3, 2014 at 2:34 am

    I love this post! I’m in my last year of uni right now and it seems like everyone has some plan for graduation. That might be further schooling, a job that’s lined up, or whatever else. It seems like I’m the only one who doesn’t really know what I want to do. I know I’m still ‘heading in the right direction’ though and that’s really all that matters 🙂

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    Katie de Rooy
    November 30, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    This post was so well-timed and truly needed. Thank you. A couple of weeks ago I wrote a similar post. It is so good to know I am not alone.

    Grace @ Green Global Travel
    November 30, 2014 at 9:24 am

    Great post! Things have a way of working out and it’s absolutely ok not know exactly where you’re going. You will eventually and you’ll probably have lots of fun finding out!

    Meg @ Adventures in Verdance
    November 30, 2014 at 8:44 am

    I associate so hard with this post. Thanks for leaving it on a high note. 😉

    November 28, 2014 at 10:38 pm

    it’s definitely stressful getting to late 20s and not being ‘there’ but perhaps not knowing where ‘there’ is!

    November 28, 2014 at 5:34 am

    “You don’t need to know where you’re going or how you’ll get there, just that you’re on your way.”

    I have to say I’m a bit moved by this one 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts <3

    November 27, 2014 at 5:24 pm

    Ah, thankyou Brooke! I’m always worried about if I’m doing the right thing, if i’m on the right track, or if this is right for me… but it’s so reassuring to know that there’s others out there who feel the same way! There’s many bumps in the road, but that path just might lead somewhere even more amazing!

    November 27, 2014 at 10:39 am

    So very true! We need to stop making teenagers believe that they have to have their whole lives figured out. I’m less than a year away from graduating university and have no idea what I’m going to do afterwards. But whatever I do decide to do, doesn’t mean that’s my career forever. Just see where life takes you!
    Lovely inspirational words from you Brooke!

    November 27, 2014 at 7:50 am

    great words!!! Indeed whenver we go and whatever we do at some point it is a right direction, especially if we do it with great pleasure and no hesitations!!!!

    I like your posts so much – they inspire to think!!!



    Sarah Elizabeth
    November 27, 2014 at 7:35 am

    Great Post Brooke! We always believe the saying ‘what’s meant to be will be’ is the best way to get through your early twenties- it can be a crazy ride!! GIPD xxx

    Christina -
    November 27, 2014 at 5:06 am

    This is so true! Great post, Brooke!

    November 27, 2014 at 3:20 am

    I’ve had this talk so many times with my best friend. We both feel pressure from a bunch of places ( jobs, family, etc ) but it is so wonderful to hear it from others too. One of my favorite posts you’ve done so far, even if the “travel” being done is within.


    November 27, 2014 at 12:11 am

    Amazing article Brooke!

    November 27, 2014 at 12:10 am

    Hi Brooke, I’ve been following your adventures through here for a month or so, and you really got me in that little time. Now, I never commented anything here, although I enjoyed most of them.
    But this text, this sentence to be exact: “Because the truth is, that by the time we hit our twenties an unprecedented amount of responsibility falls upon us as well as a huge, gut-wrenching amount of expectations.” Described my reality right now, I was really feeling low because of this crappy Responsibility x Expectations… We always get that thoughts: When is gonna be my turn?
    But, what you said… that’s the truth, and that’s beautiful, thank you for it. XoXo from Brazil.

    November 26, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    That’s the thougth!

    November 26, 2014 at 10:30 pm

    Nicely written I’m going somewhere just don’t know where.

    Best holiday destinations
    November 26, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    Nice views. thanks for sharing.

    Christine King
    November 26, 2014 at 4:59 pm

    Great post Brooke.

    Christine King
    Photography, Travel, Lifestyle

    November 26, 2014 at 4:16 pm

    Brooke, this post was exactly what I needed today. I have set my life course in a direction that my immediate family does not approve of for the exact reasons you wrote about. Reading this gave me the new burst of energy I desperately needed. Thank you.

    Christie of The Butterfly Editions
    November 26, 2014 at 4:05 pm

    You’ve hit the nail on the head with this one! I think as long as we accept happiness in the current moment everything will have its way of working out. Its good to have dreams, goals and ambitions, but I think its perfectly natural that they change, as you grow and change too!

    November 26, 2014 at 3:39 pm

    Wow, its like you got into my head! I just got out of college and am now faced with the “real world.” But I don’t necessarily think the 9-5 job is right for me. I want to see more of the world first!

    Thanks so much for sharing this! And check out my travel blog if you get a chance!


    November 26, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    As long as we continue to better ourselves and push forward each day, that’s what counts. I am still in graduate school and not sure what I’ll be doing when I finish next year, but that’s OK. I don’t think it’s an endless stream of “not know which direction you’re heading”. Some people eventually find their calling go for it. Others… it takes them longer. I feel there is a lot of pressure on young people today (especially since education is so important) that not having a “game plan” is hard for others to understand. We may not have a clear goal of where we want to be in 5 or 10 years, but it’s good to have some broad ideas of where we potentially see ourselves.

    November 26, 2014 at 1:04 pm

    There are so many things that school doesn’t prepare you for and leaving that structured system is really jarring. Thanks for reminding us to be optimists!

    November 26, 2014 at 12:41 pm

    Expectations are the worst!!! for example: I am going through a breakup and a friend wants to set me up with this guys who has an amazing job and makes tons of money, she said he might be the one because of his stability, as opposed to my x. But I hate the expectation that you have to be with this person who makes tons of money to not seem like a loser, otherwise, if you are not making money, but are focused on things you like then people look at them as losers and you are expected to “do” better. What the heck!!!! I don’t care about money that much, I just want to travel and have fun and eventually have a family and I want to be with a person that has time to travel and have fun, not someone that is too busy making money.

    Jillian Hartline
    November 26, 2014 at 11:48 am

    It feels good knowing that I’m going in the right direction as long as I’m going somewhere.

    Kirstie of Venga, Vale, Vamos
    November 26, 2014 at 11:40 am

    I certainly never expected to be where I am now, living and working in Sydney! It’s good to keep in mind that it’s impossible to have everything ahead figured out, because I worry about the future will take me far too often!

    November 26, 2014 at 11:39 am

    This is so true and honest!! I’ve just graduated university and it seems everyone is feeling this immense stress, pressure and fear about how different our lives are compared to what education said it will be.

    November 26, 2014 at 11:15 am


    November 26, 2014 at 10:25 am

    Thanks for the motivation! Currently 23 and so undecided on life but that’s okay 🙂

    Kate @ NonstopfromJFK
    November 26, 2014 at 10:05 am

    So true! There are so many times I think “I don’t know what I’m doing, but I’m doing something, that’s for sure!” as I am going through life.

    Now my question is… where are you going in that picture? That cathedral is beautiful!

    November 26, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Hello! Reading blogs recently become one of the best habits i made in my little area,bedroom. I really find reading your posts and diaries and personal thoughts so so inspirational. I am so glad that I found you! Hope you can come to Turkey one day too!( I assume you haven’t if you have i didn’t see your post about it yet) xx

    November 26, 2014 at 8:36 am

    This post is exactly what I have been needing to read! Thank you for this.

    antonia bonito
    November 26, 2014 at 8:23 am

    same with me at 45.
    xxx from Italy

    LEE @ Modern Granola
    November 26, 2014 at 8:21 am

    Great post! Thanks for sharing these inspiring words. I totally resonate with all of this.

    A Life Passport
    November 26, 2014 at 8:01 am

    I’m almost 24 and I’ve struggled with working out what direction I want to take in life since university. I realised that I was placing all the pressures and high expectations on myself. The biggest challenge was taking a step back and relinquishing the need to strictly control and plan every aspect of my life. Then I discovered travel!

    Marie @ Marie Away
    November 26, 2014 at 7:28 am

    I really appreciate this post. Ever since I graduated from university a couple of years ago, this is all anyone ever wants to know: what is your plan? As if there is one plan and it will lead me from point A to B in a predetermined amount of time. Being from a rural town in eastern Canada means that people aren’t so open to having such a broad direction in life. It takes a lot for me to explain to my family that I’m OK, I’m happy, and this is what I want. Great post, and great writing!

    Ali from The Living Spree
    November 26, 2014 at 7:17 am

    I feel ya. I’m in New Zealand, who would’ve thought. I often feel soooo lost as to what I’m really doing with my life… But I’m having fun being lost at the moment, and thats all that matters for now! I’m too young to let the pressure of the future crush me just yet! Lovely post Brooke!

    21 year old backpacker and currently an expat in New Zealand

    Ali from The Living Spree
    November 26, 2014 at 7:16 am

    I feel ya. I’m in New Zealand, who would’ve thought. I often feel soooo lost as to what I’m really doing with my life… But I’m having fun being lost at the moment, and thats all that matters for now! I’m too young to let the pressure of the future crush me just yet!

    21 year old backpacker and currently an expat in New Zealand

    Ali from The Living Spree
    November 26, 2014 at 7:15 am

    I feel ya. I’m in New Zealand, who would’ve thought. I often feel soooo lost as to what I’m really doing with my life… But I’m having fun being lost at the moment, and thats all that matters for now! I’m too young to let the pressure of the future crush me just yet!

    21 year old backpacker and currently an expat in New Zealand

    Yara Miora
    November 26, 2014 at 6:59 am

    While I feel all of that. The not knowing and the pressure of expectations, I have to say that that thought does not comfort me AT ALL. How did you feel about that before your blog became a succes and allowed you to travel the world and be independent while doing what you love? Weren’t you terrified? Cause honestly I am

    Autumn Dickens
    November 26, 2014 at 6:53 am

    This is such a great post. I have just recently come to the conclusion that it’s okay to not know what I want to do when I “grow up” or what kind of job I want to have. All that matters is that I’m working towards my goals in small steps and I’m headed in the right direction. Great post! Thanks.

    Ashley Wanders
    November 26, 2014 at 6:48 am

    I’m also heading in a direction that I’m unsure of..but I’m perfectly fine with it! Half the fun is seeing what happens along the way and finding out ultimately where it will lead me!

    November 26, 2014 at 6:45 am

    Agreed! Sometimes you do end up at the place you’ve been striving to attain, and that’s just another reassurance that whatever your direction may be, you’re making progress!

    Raza from

    Clipping Path Outsource
    November 26, 2014 at 6:43 am

    A good direction and money is enough for an unknown trip.