If you don’t know where you are going any road will take you there

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“Where do you find the courage to travel solo?”, asked a lady beyond 30 years my senior.

“I’m not entirely sure” I answered with complete honesty.

But I had essentially just stated that I wasn’t really sure how I got here or why I was here at this point in my life, travelling around the world solo and sharing my journey with thousands of readers located all around the world. It was a scarey thought, not knowing why I was here in this moment, but I was here none the less. Solo, half way around the world, and no real answer to explain as to why.

all about the journey

I’m a firm believer that J. R. R. Tolkien’s quote that “not all those who wander are lost” has hit the nail on the head for not only me, but many solo women travellers in general. But if we are to be completely and utterly honest with ourselves, we’re not particularly ‘found’, either. We’re kind of in no man’s land. As you’ll come to see by the end of this post, there’s nothing wrong with that.

After the 2010 film release of Eat Pray Love, there has been this common misconception that solo girls travelling by themselves around the world are somehow “lost’, in need of “finding themselves”. I’m sure some of them are by the way, and as in the book, Julia Roberts has in the film just endured a painful divorce which one could only conclude would lead to a need to find answers about herself and the purpose of live in general (I loved the film by the way).

But of course not everyone travels the world to find themselves, be it through a solo adventure or otherwise. However after not being able to conclusively answer the initial question asked of me and state that I was somehow courageous, bold, noble even, I can’t conclude that I am entirely on the other end of the spectrum, either.

If you don’t know where you’re going…

So what if I don’t know why I am here, how I got here, or precisely what it is that I am doing travelling the world as a full time travel blogger (an elusive concept in itself). Why must I have the answers? Why must we feel incompetent or indeed unsure of ourselves when we don’t have ALL the answers? What if we stopped searching for answers and instead chose to ask more questions?

…Any road will take you there

There’s something within us as humans that finds comfort in having concrete answers and knowledge. We are always on a need to know basis with others and ourselves, and for some reason become overwhelmed by the unknown should it cross our path. So if you find yourself here (as I did today), consider relishing in the fact that you don’t have all the answers, you don’t need to know where you’re going, and you just need to go in the right direction. After all, all roads will lead us somewhere.

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    December 29, 2015 at 6:19 pm

    I’m totally in love with this blog! This is such an inspiration for an aspiring Travel Journalist like me! I personally like Solo Traveling much better than traveling with someone 🙂 I just came across this blog like a week back! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and inspiring us.
    Just one question, how do you pick on your destinations?

    October 27, 2015 at 6:26 am

    I love the idea of traveling solo. I’m completely content to be on my own and rather enjoy my time alone. The only thing holding back from traveling solo is, well, the fear of what “could” happen. Anytime I book a trip to a new destination, I shortly after get a call from my panicking mother telling me of the terrorist organizations located within the area. She really needs to lay off the news segments. But that’s just it, the news here in America is littered with facts and opinions of other countries around the world and they almost aspire to drive fear of the world into their viewers. I guess where I’m going with this is: How do you travel alone and not worry about the dangers that could be present along your journey? As a rather defenseless female, there is so much to consider.

    January 17, 2015 at 1:53 am

    You have really inspired me to go solo traveling and I am so excited for it. I was just wondering how you spend your nights while solo traveling, in hotels or hostels etc.


    September 20, 2014 at 2:23 am

    I am obsessed with your blog, and I just found it this morning! You are truly inspiring! I think I’m going to go on a solo vacation; I just need to convince my boyfriend!

    Izy Berry - The Wrong Way Home
    June 14, 2014 at 8:06 pm

    This is so true. I’ve had many trips with no plan, no expectation and they’ve always turned out wonderfully. Sometimes it’s just about trusting in life and seeing where it gets you.

    Audrey Rose Taylor
    June 4, 2014 at 3:21 pm

    I have to admit that I’m a little obsessed with your blog. Since I found it last week, I already read so many posts and I love the way you write! On the one hand it’s so simple and easy to read, on the other so inspiring!
    But I still have one question left: Who’s taking all these nice pictures?

    Julia Lewis
    June 3, 2014 at 11:49 am

    That was in Alice in wonderland!
    “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
    “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
    “I don’t much care where –””Then it doesn’t matter which way you go. 🙂
    I saw your post and immediately thought of the book

    June 3, 2014 at 9:27 am

    Hi Brooke
    This is so inspirational! I am hoping to do some traveling on my own and love this post!!