Change your thoughts and you change your world

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All our lives growing up we are wired to a certain way of thinking.

The earth is round, there are rules, if you don’t follow those rules there will be consequences, there are expectations, not meeting expectations leads to disappointing others, disappointing others leads to disappointing yourself, being disappointed in yourself leads to self-doubt, self-doubt leads to insecurities, insecurities lead to uncertainty, uncertainty leads to unhappiness, unhappiness sucks the fun out of life, and of course… the earth is round.

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Change your thoughts and you change your world

It was drilled into us from day one that these are the realities we face. We were convinced we could not change these things without being offered a reason, because when you asked your parents “why?” you were really only asking as many why’s as you could get away with before getting a nice little smack on the bottom (if that was just me then never mind this spiel).

But it’s true, we were brainwashed into believing that things are the way they are because they just are. No more, no less.

So we followed the rules, got an education, worked part-time to fund our little hobbies and play our part in the game that is life, and found ourselves here (wherever here is in your own point in life).

But that’s where things got a little more complicated.

All that we knew – or thought we knew – became questionable. We no longer accepted ‘just because’ as a viable answer, no longer stopped seeking answers, and weren’t afraid of the smacked bottom (again, maybe that’s just me – feel free to let me know in the comments).


But instead of asking more WHY we should be asking HOW

The answer in changing your thoughts and ultimately drawing positive energy into your life to ultimately make it better, does not lie in asking ‘WHY?’. We get so caught up in ourselves and our own situations (Why did this happen to me? Why do I feel this way? Why is life cruel?), that we never progress to the HOW stage.

If we skipped the why questions and instead looked straight to HOW, we can change our thoughts and our situation almost immediately.


Let me make it as simple as possible…

Whenever something goes wrong in your life, your human reaction is to search for an explanation – to source where the problem is stemming from and understand why this happened, why you feel this way, and ultimately you will find yourself only asking these questions in negative circumstances.

But if you stopped asking why and trying to explain things (to yourself more so than others), and skipped straight to asking HOW you can change this, you will instead be searching for POSITIVE answers, rather than negative ones.

Seems too simple, right?

But it really is.

We just tend to over-complicate things.

So go ahead and set yourself the task of putting this to use over the coming week – remember to stop and ask HOW you can change your circumstances, not seeking answers but instead solutions.

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    January 10, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    That was simply great.

    Vanessa Rivers
    March 20, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    Great advice! So simple and so true.

    June 13, 2014 at 1:39 am

    thanks for bring us such inspiring article as always ๐Ÿ™‚

    June 12, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    So true, in an age of no accountability it is incredibly empowering to stop dwelling and start doing. To take control of our own destiny if you will is something I feel many people have forgotten how to do. Life has so much to offer if one steps back and observes all that lies ahead. ๐Ÿ™‚

    June 10, 2014 at 4:10 am

    You are definitely right. I have a younger brother, he’s now 8 years old and can’t stop asking ‘Why?’ . He wants to know everything about everything and most of the time nobody answers. We just don’t take the time and that is wrong.

    What we should do is either explain to him or let his own fantasy do the work. Encourage him to seek for the answer he’s looking for and not just telling him the earth is round. Because what’s the use of all those little rules, if you don’t have an imagination?

    Very nice post! You have my follow ๐Ÿ˜‰

    June 9, 2014 at 4:56 pm

    Such a positive outlook and so true ๐Ÿ™‚

    Aldo @ MDN
    June 9, 2014 at 11:57 am

    You are right. Until about a year ago, I used to just go to work, get paid, spend it all, and wait for the next check to come. No savings. Until I decided to ask myself, “How can I change this?”

    I started reading and learning how to change my habits and be better with my money. I’m still learning and I’m still not “great” with my savings but I’m improving every day.

    In my case it was finances, but whatever your situation is the approach is the same. “How can I change this?”

    Great article, thank you for this.

    June 9, 2014 at 8:09 am

    Couldn’t have put it better myself, Brooke! There’s an amazing book that made me think like this, it’s called Your Erroneous Zones by Dr Wayne W Dyer. We are the only ones who can control our own thoughts and emotions, so why not choose to be happy?! We are brought up to believe that being selfish is wrong, but I see nothing wrong with putting yourself first in some situations. Would seriously recommend this book to anyone, it changed my life!

    Love, Rhianna