All our lives growing up we are wired to a certain way of thinking.
The earth is round, there are rules, if you don’t follow those rules there will be consequences, there are expectations, not meeting expectations leads to disappointing others, disappointing others leads to disappointing yourself, being disappointed in yourself leads to self-doubt, self-doubt leads to insecurities, insecurities lead to uncertainty, uncertainty leads to unhappiness, unhappiness sucks the fun out of life, and of course… the earth is round.
Change your thoughts and you change your world
It was drilled into us from day one that these are the realities we face. We were convinced we could not change these things without being offered a reason, because when you asked your parents “why?” you were really only asking as many why’s as you could get away with before getting a nice little smack on the bottom (if that was just me then never mind this spiel).
But it’s true, we were brainwashed into believing that things are the way they are because they just are. No more, no less.
So we followed the rules, got an education, worked part-time to fund our little hobbies and play our part in the game that is life, and found ourselves here (wherever here is in your own point in life).
But that’s where things got a little more complicated.
All that we knew – or thought we knew – became questionable. We no longer accepted ‘just because’ as a viable answer, no longer stopped seeking answers, and weren’t afraid of the smacked bottom (again, maybe that’s just me – feel free to let me know in the comments).
But instead of asking more WHY we should be asking HOW
The answer in changing your thoughts and ultimately drawing positive energy into your life to ultimately make it better, does not lie in asking ‘WHY?’. We get so caught up in ourselves and our own situations (Why did this happen to me? Why do I feel this way? Why is life cruel?), that we never progress to the HOW stage.
If we skipped the why questions and instead looked straight to HOW, we can change our thoughts and our situation almost immediately.
Let me make it as simple as possible…
Whenever something goes wrong in your life, your human reaction is to search for an explanation – to source where the problem is stemming from and understand why this happened, why you feel this way, and ultimately you will find yourself only asking these questions in negative circumstances.
But if you stopped asking why and trying to explain things (to yourself more so than others), and skipped straight to asking HOW you can change this, you will instead be searching for POSITIVE answers, rather than negative ones.
Seems too simple, right?
But it really is.
We just tend to over-complicate things.
So go ahead and set yourself the task of putting this to use over the coming week – remember to stop and ask HOW you can change your circumstances, not seeking answers but instead solutions.